If you missed my previous post on one of the Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz you can click on Nurturing Yourself – with Impeccable Words and it will take you to it.

The Second Agreement : Don’t take Anything Personally

This agreement concerns itself with the behavior of other people. It opens us up to explore the realization that the way people act towards us isn’t always about the issue that are going on at the time between you and the other person, but more about the way the person is reacting towards you based on his or her own persona. If someone is spoiled, selfish or has feelings of entitlement they will react in a different manner then someone who has a greater attitude of compassion towards others who they interact with.

Many times, it’s difficult to put this agreement into effect. If you’re a sensitive person by nature you believe that everything that’s happening is because the other person doesn’t like you. You begin to feel you’re not good enough or pretty enough or thin enough. You think it must be that my clothes are wrong, my hair isn’t stylish or straight, my skin color is offending. You start to grab all of the negative messages  from your minds treasure chest. Before you know it, you crumble before them and give them your power.

All of the things that are going on between you and the other person could have had nothing to do with you. But, it’s much easier for us to think we’ve created this because of all these issues we think we have.
The fact is that everyone has bags full of issues. How we carry our bags determines our self-assurance in ourselves. With greater confidence, we can stand strong in who we are and diminish the power we’re giving to another. Everyone has opinions along with beliefs or biases. Most are based on how they were instilled in us while growing up. As we mature, we begin to see some flaws in what we were taught. Once we begin to see the value in ourselves, the opinions or the comments of others aren’t emotionally painful anymore nor do they mean anything to us any longer.

Why???

Because they are entitle to their own thoughts, opinions and beliefs but they’re not entitled to destroy us.

My mantra is : It’s not about me; it’s about them.

Do you have a mantra you tell yourself while in the midst of an argument or negative discourse?

Namaste
Isadora

2014©written by Isadora

These are The Four Agreements 

The First Agreements is : Be Impeccable with Your Word
The Second Agreement : Don’t take Anything Personally
The Third Agreement : Don’t make Assumptions
The Fourth Agreement : Always Do your Best

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