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There is no preparation or test assignment nor hint to prepare us for certain things in this world.
We hear stories of tragedies. Usually, it’s someone else’s family.
No one expects it’s going to be theirs. No one prepares for death and, then, it happens.
The dreaded phone call or, as in my case, a letter which brings our carefully crafted house of calm and stability, crashing down with one single statement, ‘I’m sorry’.
Sorry … and, you wonder why they are sorry.
Sorry … about the fact they could not save the person.
Sorry … that they have to be the person to bring bad news to you.
Sorry … for the departure of your loved one from this world.
There is no preparation, no practice.
In that moment, you either walk across the broken shards feeling the loss with every stinging sensation or, you stare unmoving, long and hard at the broken pieces. Nothing can prepare you for that split-second reaction.
Either you grieve, or you don’t.
It’s a sad time for me.
My brother, George Anthony Diaz Maisonet was born December 8, 1957.
He died December 01, 2020. He was born with a brain disability called Hydrocephalus. He lived with my mother until she pass away in 2010.
Lucy was his caretaker/companion until she became ill and could not care for him. Shortly after, the government placed him in a sanatorium. They did not notify the family of his death.
When he died his body was sent to a medical school for students to explore his illness and study his organs. It felt overwhelming when I first read this in the letter. I’ve come to accept that he is helping people from suffering the life he led with their research. It’s a consolation to know he is now with his beloved mother and father.
R.I.P. George 🙏🏻
Reach out and touch someone with LOVE today ... Isadora 😎
April 7, 2021 at 11:46 pm
I am sorry for your loss. It’s hard. All of it.
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March 25, 2021 at 6:28 pm
You’re right that we are never really prepared when we get the ‘bad’ phone call or in your case the letter. Even when we think we are prepared for the sad news, we are still shocked. So sorry for the loss of your dear brother. ❤
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March 25, 2021 at 11:56 am
What a sad and beautiful post, Isadora. I’m so sorry for your brother George’s death and the way you found out. The finality of death is so hard to accept. I’m glad you found some peace with the thought that he’s reunited at last with your parents. I hope that the medical community can unravel the mystery of his condition. That would help so many people. Take care of yourself, too. At these times, we need to be kind to ourselves, too. Hugs to you.
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March 23, 2021 at 10:50 pm
A wonderful song to accompany a sadness. Very wrong not to notify the family.
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March 25, 2021 at 3:22 am
I love that song no matter who plays or sings it. I’m happy you enjoyed it. Yes, someone should have notified me but its a bit complicated. I’m at peace that he’s with my mom. She understood him best. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Be well … Isadoa😎
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March 25, 2021 at 3:30 am
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March 23, 2021 at 9:50 pm
Izzy, thanks for sharing what must be very difficult for you. Praying for comfort for you and all your family and friends who knew and loved George. I think that if his body can in some way help others, it’s a blessing. After all, he doesn’t need that body anymore, he has a perfect one now. My parents are 92 and 91 and I know that one day, maybe soon, maybe not, I’ll face that one or both of them is/are no longer with us. Thankfully we’ve had them for many years, but I know it will still be difficult.
Much love to you, my friend!
janet
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March 25, 2021 at 3:31 am
I appreciate your kind thoughts, Janet.
I don’t believe we’re ever totally prepared unless there’s long suffering. I think my brother never understood where my mother went and why she left him. But, now he can be with her and at peace. Science is incredible. I believe if we can be of help in some way its a blessing.
God bless your parents on their long life. May they continue to have good health and happiness forever. Be Safe 😷
Isadora 😎
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