Inside the Mind of Isadora

Cafe Chat – Chivalry Lost


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Now, sit in a comfy chair and let’s chat.

What is chivalry?

Answer: it’s the combination of qualities expected of an ideal knight, especially courage, honor, courtesy, justice, and a readiness to help the weak.©dictionary

Readiness to help the weak is no more. Let me unveil the tale.

Several weeks ago, while waiting for a table on the patio of one of my favorite Italian restaurants, hubby and I sat chatting and feeling free that the mask mandates were lifting. It was a pleasant evening to be outdoors. You can order drinks, but there is no outdoor service. Mama’s is a popular restaurant with delicious food. There’s a crowd. Everyone is chatting, laughing, and enjoying the wonderful feeling of being able to be out and about. 

The wait is short, our names are called, and off we go to meet the hostess. 

 Due to my compromised immune system, I wasn’t confident to go mask-less. So, I put my mask on as I approached the young lady at the entrance. When I got to the doorway, my toe from my sneaker caught the edge of their entrance doormat. 

Down … Down … Down … I went. I was flat on my side with an outstretched arm, bent leg, and my head right on the indoor mat. 

Plop … Plop … Plop 

I lay there on the ground for what seemed like a month, but it was only a few seconds. Hubby grabbed my arm to help me up, but I was like jello. My body wouldn’t respond to what I wanted it to do. 

 Eventually, I begin to focus and grasp that I’ve fallen when a man with a pizza box in hand steps over me on his way out of the restaurant. 

The man did not bother to ask if he could help, nor did the other patrons out on the patio. Actually, he said, “Welcome!” as he continued on his way.


Hubby picked me up, and we walked to our table. The owners of the restaurant came over to ask if I was okay. I felt shaky and embarrassed. I was mad at myself for putting the mask on while walking. I think it impeded my visual concept of space. I haven’t worn a mask since. I much prefer COVID to a fall. 

Now, let’s not get angry about my mask rebellion. I’ve been wearing a mask from the very beginning of the pandemic. I continue to support wearing maks. I’ve had COVID twice. I know it’s no walk in the park. It’s a horrific illness, and I am not ready for a third Covid event. 

But, falling at my age is a big problem. I have osteoporosis which means my bones are thin, thin, thin. I have bad knees too. I did fall on the side of my body. My injuries are bruising, some headaches, swelling, and overall body aches. 

Despite these symptoms, the most painful thing is knowing that we are no longer willing to help someone who can’t help themselves. 

There’s no ‘Readiness to help the Weak’

2022©Isadora De La Vega

*****the photograph above is of my daughter. She works in Hospice care. This is what they wear in their office. The mask they wear with patients involves a lot more covering.

Author: Inside the Mind of Isadora

Intriguing, sensitive, mysterious, loving, artistic and crackling with excitement for life is a pretty good description of who I am. I just retired from the world of art where I sold my Artfully Designed Handmade Jewelry for 28 years; although, art will always be a part of who I am no matter what venue I choose to express it in.

14 thoughts on “Cafe Chat – Chivalry Lost

  1. Oh no, Isadora… I hope your aches and bruising clear soon. We never know what’s on someone else’s mind, but you’d think a little respect and compassion would be second nature in circumstances such as this.

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    • Thank you, Tom for your kind words. Yes, I’m slowly healing and getting back to my old self. I was surprised too by his behavior. I guess I’m a bit old fashioned. Hubby has spoiled me by opening doors, assiting with my chair and other things like that. I guess some men don’t appreciate women. Have a good weekend … Isadora 😎

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  2. While not the same situation, and my health not the same, I did recently have a similar situation where people around me watched my struggle and not one offered a hand. Most were youngsters. But this wouldn’t have happened when I was their age.

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  3. Oh I’m so sorry that this happened. You’re right that chivalry is dead and helpfulness has taken a back seat. Hope you feel better soon. Hugs

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  4. I cannot believe that someone would do that. Imagine if you started to arise and knocked the pizza from his hands!!!!

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  5. To be fair, I think we are now in a time where many people are afraid to touch each other lest they be sued for assault. But even so, stepping over a fallen person is incredibly rude! He could have at least asked if you wanted some help. I’m glad your hubby was there… and I hear you about falling. It’s really scary and the last few falls have really messed me up!

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    • I think you’re right. We are living in fear of everything. My lil town was a sleepy town. In 30 years, I’ve seen the changes. Covid has changed how we think and react. But, if he had asked if we needed an ambulance and offered to call, it would have been a better way to react. God help us if we never feel comforatble about helping others. Thanks, Paula. And, yes falls at this stage of my life is super scary. This coming from a former pro dancer. Have a great day … Isadora 😎

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